There’s an ancient story about a man shot with a poison arrow. What should be his main concern, who shot him or getting the arrow out? What about when others shoot us with insults? Isn’t it more important to get rid of the discomfort than to to be concerned with who hurt us?
When people feel hurt inside, they often strike out at those close to them. It’s like when you stub your toe and yell. It’s best not to take it personally. It doesn’t have to become your story. No one can make us feel any way that we don’t want to feel. So, it’s really about going deep within ourselves to get the arrow out. Also, get out of target range.
It only lingers because you haven’t stopped telling your story. It’s really pretty simple.